Monthly Archives: July 2009

Is having a “conversation” enough?

Yesterday the great beer summit took place at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue, Washington DC. President Obama accepted Officer Crowley’s suggestion of having a beer to try and create order of the chaos that disturbed our peace when he arrested Prof. Gates last week. Did you watch the body language of the summit? There was one summit participant who stood out like a sore thumb by their stiff, unrelaxed manner. All we had as input was the visual, since any audio record of the meeting was not broadcast. The visual alone was instructive.

Let’s look at the way the summit began. Prof. Gates and family were given a tour separate from that given to Officer Crowley and family. Can you say segregation? What kind of signal does that decision send?

Okay, on to the summit itself. The Vice President sat in, and actually looked like he might have been engaged in the proceedings. Of course, three of the four at the table appeared relaxed and willing to “chat.” One did not.

The only report I have heard so far is the conclusion offered by Officer Crowley, “We agreed to disagree.” Pundits have taken this and suggested that it was enough just to have opened a conversation about the race issue. The conversation about the race issue hit the headlines and hit top volume back in the ’60′s, if not before. This summit is just more talk that yielded nothing. Nothing.

The bottom line… before the summit Gates thought he was wronged and Crowley thought he acted profesionally. After the summit nothing has changed. Should the incident occur again tomorrow, Gates would still be pissy and Crowley would still arrest him. Nothing changed.

The President won’t admit he was wrong. He was. Gates won’t admit he was wrong. He was. Crowley has been the class act all the way as far as anyone can see. Yes, there may be one fact more I don’t have… so I will give myself that option to ammend my statement should such a fact arise. President Obama doesn’t seem to feel the need to limit his opinions to bothersome things like details.

You are never correct by calling what is good, bad; calling what is wrong, right. No positive cause is advanced. A conversation alone solves nothing.

The summit was a photo-op for Obama and his buddy. Too bad his buddy didn’t check with a body language coach before attending. Props to Biden and Crowley. They’re the only two who may have sat in their chairs with open minds. Don’t know for sure, but I do know that there was no fruit produced by this charade. At least, no good fruit.

So, is just having a conversation enough? If you have a conversation with your 16-year old son about the dangers of driving drunk, yet he goes right out, attends his own “beer summit” and drives drunk anyway – was the conversation alone enough?

Conversations that don’t result in some change… even the subconcious opening of a previously closed door… are nothing but a waste of oxygen.

Success is a series of moments: stringing beads

Success is nothing more than all the beads called ‘now’ strung together. Each bead is itself a goal, a blessing, a purpose. There can be no string of beautiful beads if each one is not properly made and securely tied to the others.

If we learn to get each ‘now’ right, our eventual string will be amazing and distinct from all others. Success is not a destination; it is the journey itself. There is a fine balancing act in creating a successful ‘now’, while yet keeping your feet on the correct path.

There are many beautiful beads: beads made from glass, stone, silver, pearls, gold, gems, wood and clay. All are lovely, unique and distinct in their character.

The daily balancing act each of us has is to create one wonderful bead, yet keep it in relationship to the whole of our string. If we have a string of colorful clay beads, we err by thinking the glass bead in our neighbor’s string is better than ours and try to string one for ourselves. We have then lost the beauty and unity of our own string by copying another’s.

Concentration on even the smallest thing gets more difficult when we begin to gradually create more intricately decorated beads. As distractions multiply, discipline is needed to maintain the character of our ‘nows’. If we concentrate too hard on the bead we plan to make tomorrow, we will probably mess up the one in our hands at the moment. If we worry tomorrow about the flaws in the bead we made today, well, there’s a good chance the next bead will also be flawed.

Christians are ever mindful of the straight path that leads to the narrow gate to Heaven. Each day is a complete life in itself, from the birth of morning when we awake, to the end of the day as our eyes close in sleep. Each day is a bead in our string. While our concentration is on ‘now,’ we still need to be aware of how our string progresses.

Are you stringing your own beads or trying to string someone else’s? Enjoy the process. Live in the now. Stay true to your purpose. I’ll meet you at the gate.

Unanswered Prayers

Have you ever prayed to the Lord about a problem and felt your message went no further than His answering machine; that it remains there, unheard, until He picks up His messages at some time in the future?

There are times when prayers cannot penetrate God-erected barriers; the reasons are found in Scripture. At other times, God hears you perfectly clearly, considers your plea, and does nothing. Why? Doesn’t He love you?

If you are a parent, teacher, or horse-trainer, you should easily understand why God might choose not to answer. Suppose your 10-year old son came to you and asked what he should do about a problem with a classmate at school. The remedy he seeks is clear to you, but you decide not to share it with your son. Why?

As a loving parent, you are allowing your child the opportunity to apply the lessons and concepts you have been teaching him for the past ten years. Children will not grow in wisdom if they never learn to work through problems for themselves. The loving parent asks the son to stretch and strengthen his own ability to resolve issues. The parent who only wants the problem (and their child) to go away gives the easy answer.

Horse-trainers allow horses to ‘soak’ in new concepts, giving them the time to process and create new memory pathways. Only then can new lessons be built upon the foundation of those already mastered.

Perhaps God is asking you to apply all He has taught you. Giving the easy answer isn’t always the loving response. He does love you. Try. Grow. Stretch. If you reach the end of your try, He will still be there to call on again.

Do you know what the right question is?

Here we are in the United States about to enact sweeping legislation to completely remodel our industry, our healthcare and the very fabric of our lives. Have we asked the right questions? Obviously not, or there would not be such confusion about what the changes mean and whether they will lead to a net gain or net loss for U.S. citizens.
We cannot make informed choices and decisions unless we understand the topic well enough to formulate the proper questions.
Case in point… both of our air conditioners have failed in our new house in the past two weeks. The repair quys say, “Well, it’s because of the hot weather.” I KNOW that is not the right answer. Hello, air conditioners are only used in hot weather. However, I do not understand HVAC stuff enough to know what questions to ask to determine what the real problem is; poor equipment, poor installation, or something else. I am at the mercy of the repair guys. If I get concerned enough, I will find someone to ask the questions on my behalf. I’m getting close.
Here’s a red flag for you on the political situation. When experts in the fields of industry, business or health care are consulted…the ones who know the right questions to ask; they are telling us that the proposed legislation is wrong, bad, detrimental, etc.. Why do we believe the politicians over the folks who actually know enough to figure out the right questions, thus gathering the correct and relevant information?
My minister may tell me that air conditioning is a good thing, but he sure couldn’t come up with the right questions for me to ask the repair guys that are on their way out here as I write this. I know this because he recently had air conditioning issues too, and asked someone who had a clue to help out.
Consider: do you know what the right questions are? How can you evaluate any concept, proposal or system without the proper information?
First, you begin with someone you trust. I don’t think anyone in Washington fits that criteria.
Here’s a question to start with: “Who do you trust?”

Welcome!

Photo by James Helvey

Photo by James Helvey

Let’s begin with the truth…

For my first post on this new site I believe a good place to start is with a few words about truth. Horses are direct. They do not dissemble, they “say” what they mean. You will never get a more honest feedback of your leadership ability than from a horse.
Customer service success is based on truth. Tell the customers what you will do, then deliver 125% on your promises.
Truth in Washington, DC? Don’t make me laugh. When is the last time you heard a politician give a simple declarative sentence in response to a question?
You will always get the truth on this blog, to the absolute best of my ability. Practice truth… especially as the aging memory begins to forget just what it was you said to Aunt Norma last week after Sunday dinner.